We’re All In This Together

The alarm clock sounded at 1:00 am Sunday morning, an hour that I am more accustomed to greeting at the other end of my day. I folded quietly out of bed, put on my macaroni-and-cheese yellow “Standing on the Side of Love” tee shirt, and gathered up my stuff. Saturday had been damp after a few days of crisp, cold autumnal weather, and the stars were twinkling in the moist night air as I drove over town to meet my carpool.

Four of us from my home congregation rode together down to Portland to catch the bus chartered by the Maine UU State Advocacy Network (MUUSAN) down to New York City for the People’s Climate March. The bus was full – I think 55 people, from all over southern and central Maine: Augusta, Ellsworth, Pittsfield, Auburn, Waterville, Portland (both Allen Avenue and First Parish); ministers serving two of our congregations and a couple of folks from Texas who had planned their vacation to coincide with the march.

A busload full of sleepy Unitarian Universalists (and friends) en route to the People's Climate March in NYC (Sept. 21, 2014)

photo courtesy of MUUSAN

I was thinking of the gathering of the waters – the ritual by which so many UU congregations mark the beginning of the church / school year in late summer – and the natural water cycle: rain that falls in drops, gathers in puddles and pools, forms streams that flow into rivers, rivers that drain into bays and estuaries where they mingle with the great salt ocean. And then, under the sun, water evaporates, forms clouds that blow inland on the wind, tear their hems on the jagged mountain ridges, and the water falls again as rain to begin the cycle anew.

Two white women smiling, in a bus.

Riding the bus to NYC.
Debbie M (left) and Claire Curole (right).

And so we came, individuals making a carload, carloads filling a bus, busses heading for a city within a city, voices and banners joining with other voices and banners to sound the alarm on global environmental issues: to show, by showing up, that this is a real thing that is vitally important to all of us. Continue reading

Posted in Ruminations | Tagged , | 1 Comment

Vacation Theology

It’s gone muggy again for now, but the air earlier this week was cool and clear, with the whisper of autumn floating on the wind. A few leaves at the tips of the excitable, anxious maples are starting to hint at shades of red and gold. It was a welcome shift from the thick summer heat earlier in the week that greeting us when Spouse and I returned from a short vacation, but also a reminder that this wide-open summer is beginning to draw inward, into a new season and time.

Spouse and I observed our fifth wedding anniversary this summer by taking a few days “down east” – a camping trip in Washington County, ME. We’d originally scheduled the break between the CPE program I didn’t finish this summer and the internship I won’t be starting this fall, but it was still important to go spend some time with each other. The weather was cool and beautiful – we camped and did a little hiking at Cobscook State Park; spent a day playing tourist on Campobello Island, NB; heard some great live music at a Summerkeys concert in Lubec one night and at a little country fair in Pembroke another day; and ended the trip with a wildlife-viewing cruise around Passamaquoddy Bay.

It is satisfying to see the tourist economy growing downeast. Washington County is the end of the road – the eastern pointy bit of Maine – with a mostly resource-based economy that has suffered greatly over the last fifty or hundred years as the sardine canneries close and the shipbuilding trades and major ports move elsewhere. Spouse tells me that the first time he went to Eastport, some twenty-odd years ago, there were almost no businesses downtown save the only restaurant, a diner with a sign it its window reading “Closed until next food delivery.” I am pleased to report that this is no longer the case – there is still a lot of poverty and decay in rural Maine, but there is also hope and community and revitalization. I hope to get back out there every so often.

We got back to town late Monday, back to the heat and humidity, work and errands, meetings and appointments. Ending vacation also initiates a shift for me, out of this summer’s season of introspection and stillness back into the slightly-more-externally focused world of seminary where I not only have things to do but deadlines to do them by. In an effort to productively distract myself from the bittersweet reality of not being in Chicago this week with my classmates, I’ve taken up an early start on the reading for my classes this term. I’m working through Paul Rasor’s Faith Without Certainty, required reading for my Liberal Theology class that’s also on the denominational required reading list, and I’m trying to recapture the glimmer of understanding I had a day or two ago (when I began writing this post), a brilliant gossamer thread of connection between vast abstract academic theories and the salt-scented reality of fishing villages in deep rural Maine.

It made sense then. I swear it. Now, if only I had somehow not lost that thought in the process of coming up the stairs and getting on the computer.

Perhaps it was simply that when I read Rasor’s overview of what “Modernism” means in this context – science, progress, human reason, the autonomous individual, bold enterprise – and particularly of the residual systemic issues that are Modernism’s shadow legacy (racism, colonialism, classism and economic inequality among them) my mind’s eye illustrates the text with a downeast travelogue. The history of the region is one of cyclical prosperity and decay, colonialism and coexistence, the weatherworn poverty of the present juxtaposed with the ghosts of former affluence and the tiny sprouts of hope jutting up through the cracks, tender but tenacious.

There is a resilience in these rural communities that seems to me to push back against the presumptive culture of everyone for themselves. One cannot afford to be completely individualistic in remote locations. Living in tight knots of people, where pretty much everyone knows pretty much everyone else, forces a level of interdependence that can be avoided in larger, denser concentrations of people. You may not like the guy, but everyone knows he’s the only person in a fifty mile radius who has a portable sawmill, and so you deal with him.

I ought, perhaps, to have used the camera more on vacation. Then I could pass round a picture and say, this here? this is what the post-Modern critique of Modernism looks like. It has weathered cedar shingles and a faded sign and a whimsical piece of folk art in the window, and it is open every day but only until four o’clock. It smells of salt and old fish and road tar. It is around the corner from a vacant boarded-up sardine cannery with a crumbling concrete dock and across the street from an empty lot where a set of granite stairs leads to nothing. Post-Modernism has a soft, cynical chuckle at Modernism’s notions of progress because progress is motion and motion means “away from here” and post-Modernism knows that “here” will still be here when the big houses burn down or sag on their sills until they collapse under their own unmaintained weight.

Post-Modernism paints flowers where they will not grow, because it can.

Posted in Ruminations | Leave a comment

Leaning on the Everlasting Arms

Leaning, leaning, safe and secure from all alarms,
Leaning, leaning, leaning on the everlasting arms!

If I ever learned the old hymn “Leaning on the Everlasting Arms” it had slipped from my conscious memory decades ago. Even now it does not seem like the sort of thing we would have sung very often in my childhood church: too gentle, too soft, too welcoming; not enough fire or brimstone or blood or guilt or anger. So I encountered it this summer as a new song, new to me at least – first during the short time I spent in CPE, in a morning devotional service led by a student from another tradition, and then unexpectedly some weeks later in the opening service of this year’s UUA General Assembly, held in Providence, RI.

The UUA archives video of General Assembly services and this year’s opening session (celebration and business) can be found here. (Link goes to a webpage with video and partial transcript. I haven’t figured out how to embed other people’s video yet. The GA business ends and the opening worship starts at 1:09:00. “Everlasting Arms” is the closing hymn at about 1:58:00)

It’s become the recurring theme, the sound track for this summer’s work. The majority of my own work has been personal in nature, uncovering and attending to old wounds of the soul and learning to develop the materials I have, as a lapidary or wood carver works with the natural material as it comes, including its weaknesses and idiosyncracies. My own, as it turns out, include some hard knots around vulnerability and trust, a deep old wariness rooted in things unformed that have no names.

I am told, and I believe that it is true, that this deep mistrust of the world in general and authority in particular is not uncommon. How many of us live without a feeling of security? How many of us trust that the system will work – if not always the way we want it to – at least in a way that is fair and transparent and intending the greatest possible good and the least possible harm? The truth, in our wider world, is that these things are not always true – not at the macroeconomic level, or the geopolitical one. For many of us even our smaller systems – schools, neighborhoods, families, churches – have their own built-in hazards. Survive long enough and you learn… survival.

When we experience external authority as arbitrary, capricious and controlling, when others’ power negates our own, when we learn to trade identity for affection or self-worth for survival, then it makes sense that we develop “issues” with authority: mistrust, defensiveness, subterfuge and rebellion. If this is what we know, if this how we have learned the system works, then we react to a new authority or structure according to the pattern we have internalized, which can then provoke the response we expect – and the pattern perpetuates itself. Thus, the fundamental concept behind systems theory.

They say that when the only tool you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.

But not everything is a nail. And so the first baby step is to realize that some of these nails are kind of funny looking. And then the next step is to realize that pounding on these funny-looking nails isn’t working terribly well. And somewhere along the way we realize, dimly, that maybe we need a different technique… or maybe a different kind of hammer. We start to imagine possibility.

How do we imagine authorities and structures that we can lean on, “safe and secure from all alarms” as the old hymn says? For those of us who are wounded and wary, what does trustable authority look like? How might we recognize it? How might we react to it? And the risky experimental part – are there existing authorities and structures which we dare to test by behaving as if they were nurturing and supportive instead of coercive and adversarial?

The answer for many of us is “Not yet,” and sometimes with very good reason. Opaque systems and inadequate resources are a fact of the human condition; layering the imperfect “best we can manage under the circumstances” onto a brittle foundation of suspicion and reactivity leads to collapse under the weight of frustration and disappointment when everything does not go exactly according to plan. And things eventually don’t.

If we are lucky, we learn – to stumble, to fall, to land hard, maybe to shatter. But we also learn to be a net for one another, catching each other as we lose our balance, creating little systems where those of us who need to can practice trusting and being trusted, in the company of those who have just enough more experience to make them seem like experts.

It is a bewildering transition to make, this learning to trust and be trusted, which seems to me the foundation for developing an authority that is not situated in power and control. I only recognize how much I have changed in the last year through interacting with the incoming students who will be starting later this month. I see so much of myself in their questions and reactions that it is very hard for me not to project my own experience over theirs. I have not yet learned to distill this particular shift in understanding and distribute it; maybe eventually I will, or at least I will keep trying.

We need it.

Posted in Ruminations | Tagged , , , | 2 Comments

Lessons Written in Stone

This post has been cooking for several weeks now, and it has become time to release it into the world. The story is unfinished, but the blog post is just about done. 

Before I moved to Maine, I lived in Oregon for several years. Oregon is a rockhound’s paradise and I have a longstanding love for the shiny treasures of the Earth. Though I never took up the hobby at a serious level, I did gather agates on the beach and ran an electric tumbler for a month at a time in the kitchen of my little apartment. I spent many hours at summer gem shows and the local rock shop, gazing at the specimens for sale in the cabinets and picking through bins of rough material from near and far. Agates, jaspers, obsidian, petrified wood… whole thundereggs just waiting for someone with a lapidary saw to reveal their internal secrets.  Though I never made the time or space to engage in lapidary work, I admired – and acquired – the work of others.

Three lumpy mud-colored rocks (thunder-eggs) on a blue and black, velvet-textured cloth.

Three thunder-eggs, exterior view.

The thunderegg is Oregon’s state rock. From the outside, they look like balls of petrified mud, formed in volcanic ash deposits; when sliced open and polished their interiors can be striking and beautiful: rings of colorful jasper, delicate mossy agate, tiny cavities lined with miniature crystals, ribbons of common opal, all the different ways that silica picks up trace minerals and arranges itself in secret beauty in the earth. Continue reading

Posted in Ruminations | 3 Comments

About Face

So one of the stories that has been flying around social media the last couple of weeks involves the case of a little girl reportedly asked to leave a fast-food restaurant because her facial injuries were disturbing other customers.

Sounds egregious, right? Click bait!

Of course I clicked; many people did. The story came with all the elements of a media classic – cute blonde preschooler with facial scars and a pink hello-kitty eyepatch, outraged family accusing employees of a fast-food restaurant of exclusionary behavior. It unfolded over the course of days that the child had been mauled by a dog belonging to a member of her extended family, that she had lost an eye and had other permanent injuries that called for ongoing medical attention, that medical bills were piling up, that then this awful hurtful insult happened…

It went viral, fast. Donations of course poured in, the fast-food chain offered money, investigations started. And in today’s iteration of the tale, allegations have surfaced that the incident at the restaurant did not happen, and that the family had raised the initial ruckus for the money.

There are plenty of places to toss around “I knew it” and “Those people” and “Should’ve” and “Shouldn’t’ve” and this blog is not one of those places. I’m not interested in blaming the child’s family, or media hype, or scourging gentle and well intentioned people for a paucity of skepticism.

At the end of the day, there is still a little child with a disfiguring injury that would benefit from continuing care, and she lives – as do we all – in a system whose structure makes that care seem more attainable through deceit and manipulation than through honest vulnerability.

What does that say about the system?

What does that say about us?

Posted in Ruminations | Tagged | 1 Comment

Drive by Posting

Oh, hi.  

Summer seems to have happened.  The weather has gone from cold and wet to warm and humid.  Our yard is a disaster – the long cold winter did a lot of damage that I haven’t had a chance to clean out, and the weeds are taking over.  I shattered a tail light in the wagon when I backed into the lilac trees a couple of weeks ago, but that’s been fixed.  

CPE is turning out to be difficult in different places than I imagined it.  Takes all the time and energy I can muster and then some.   I will not be sharing details here, sorry.  Some things need to stay where they are.  

 

Posted in Ruminations | Leave a comment

Drive-By Posting

It seemed like a good idea at the time, back when I scheduled myself to lead worship two consecutive Sundays in the gap between the end of the spring semester and the start of the CPE (Clinical Pastoral Education) program I am enrolled in for this summer. I’ve never done worship twice in a row, I said. I should try that.

So. One worship service done, one worship service yet to create, add some correspondence and an article for the church news letter, a couple of meetings and a holiday, and somewhere between now and Sunday I need to make time to revise a paper I thought I was done with several weeks ago, and the reader may well imagine why blogging has been sparse.

It will continue to be so through the summer. I start CPE on Tuesday, and I expect not to be writing much about it for public consumption for a complex variety of intersecting reasons. And because I am pressed for time, I will direct you to Karen Johnston’s recent reflection on beginning CPE, where she has already written pretty much everything I would otherwise say on the subject.

I will be back.

Posted in Ruminations | Leave a comment